What Is Your Body Saying-Too Much or Too Little?

By: Woody O. Wilcox

One of the things that all the women interviewed seemed to immediately agree upon 100% is that what happens in the very first few seconds of making eye contact has 10 times more to do with either sealing the deal or going down in flames. More so than anything else you can possibly think of doing over the next several hours.

Did you get that? Let me repeat it, because this is very, very, very important to grasp. “What happens in the very first few seconds of making eye contact, has 10 times more to do with either sealing the deal or going down in flames, than anything else you can possibly think of doing over the next several hours!”

Wow, that is absolutely brutal, and seems horrifically unfair. But if it’s the truth that these women all agree on as reality, then rather than sit around and make smug concepts on how unfair or illogical chicks can be, why don’t we rather simply agree to deal with the facts as the facts? Then we can move on and use them to our advantage.

The one thing that I found most interesting in dealing with the topic of women’s view of body language, particularly in the first few seconds of making eye contact, was that nearly all the women that I surveyed and interviewed, laughed knowingly at the following old “wives’ tale” saying. That females decide within the first 5 seconds of meeting you, whether they are going to sleep with you, ever, and they mostly agree that this old saying is pretty much right on the money! Here are the numbers to back it up:

Usually decides whether they are interested in a guy, within:

The First 3-5 Seconds: 27%

The First Minute: 29%

The First 5 Minutes: 23%

The First 15 Minutes: 8%

The First Hour: 7%

The First Meeting: 4%

No Specific Time To Decide: 2%

So what do we learn from this information, and more importantly, how can we apply it to our efforts to meet and greet, date and mate the lovely ladies that we all encounter day in and day out on this grand adventure that we call life on Planet Earth?

Basically the main things we learn here are: (A) “Time is of the Essence” and (B) “There simply is no second chance to make a great first impression!”

Now is that fair? No! Is that logical? No! Is that the way it should be in a perfect world? No! Don’t you wish it were different? Absolutely Yes, I do, but there’s no point in crying over spilt milk. This is the way it is and if we guys are going to be successful and hooking-up with the babes in this world, then we simply have to deal with reality as it is dealt to us, and move forward from there!

This is just the way it is, and there is no point complaining or getting upset about it. That won’t accomplish a damned thing, other than making us less attractive to the girls whom we are so intently trying to connect with. So we merely have to learn to deal with it and begin to learn how to effectively absorb this truth into our way of getting to know the women that we want to date and eventually mate.

But, the actual mathematical plurality of the women questioned admitted that in more cases than not, we actually have an entire minute. That’s right, a full 60 seconds, to make our apparently “first and final” impression, at least we have been reprieved from the horror of knowing that we have to do something that gets us noticed in a positive way in the first 3 seconds. So that’s good news.

Secondly, while more than a quarter of the women out there give you only a 3-5 second chance, and another even larger segment of the female population, nearly another third, give you just one minute to make an impression. You can’t help but notice that even in the case of those ladies who are a lot less likely to quickly decide “Thumbs Up” or “Thumbs Down,” on you, that once you get to the dreaded, dangerous and decidedly deadly “5 Minute Mark,” your chances of making a love connection – or even getting a simple date – are less than 21%. And those odds are simply not good!

So what do we do? How do we go about making that positive first impression that is going to get us in the front door to at least have a chance with the lovely lady of our choice?

Well, thanks to this book, and the wonderful women who agreed to participate in its creation, the answer is easy as pie! Why? Because we now know exactly what the women are looking for, when they are looking our way to decide “Yes” or “No” regarding any possible future with us, and that gives us a very distinct advantage in a game that we used to have no choice but to play blind.

Here’s what the ladies revealed to us.

What do you look for in a guy, when you are deciding whether you should give him a chance with you or not?

Confidence: 61%

Looks: 7%

Signs of Success and Wealth: 9%

Nice Body: 4%

Nice Face: 6%

Nice Smile: 13%

Hello!!!!! Anybody Home? If this isn’t the greatest possible news for every guy out there in the entire world, with the exception of the hunky, muscle building, pretty boy model, then I just can’t imagine what possibly could be. Women want a guy who strikes them as confident, followed next by a guy with a nice smile.

Ok., so what does that mean for us? Well, first of all, it means we are in the clear to go for it, even if we aren’t rich, successful, in perfect shape or the most handsome guy around. That’s good news, because if you look around, most of us dudes simply aren’t any of those things.

But wait you say, Woody, you seem to forget that most of us aren’t really all that confident either, especially around women, so really, we’re still pretty much sunk here, right?

WRONG! Because when it comes to looks, a great physiques, a handsome face, you simply can’t fake that, you either have it, or you don’t. There’s no debate, no way to play the game as if you have the assets that are being discussed. Faking wealth and success is a possibility, but it’s a very hard act to pull off. And it takes tons of effort and trusting for several possible potential points to all go your way, in a consecutive order, with mathematical probabilities so immense, that it makes astrophysicists want to drop to their knees and cry!

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But a nice smile is the easiest thing on earth to manufacture, if you don’t already have it. And the golden goose and key to all your dreams, confidence, is not a hard thing to develop with time. And until you do get you confidence act together, you can simply do what all of us dudes did while we were getting our sea-legs on the good ship “Lady Love,” which is simply “Fake it till you Make it!”