The Value Exchange

By: Mehow

The “value” is always emotional value: anything that the woman (or you) like or enjoy and which stimulates you/her emotionally. For example, when a beautiful woman sits next to you and touches you, that generates an emotional reaction in you and is one example of her giving you value.

Conversely, when you touch or make her laugh, she’ll feel those emotions — that is you giving her value. Most of the time giving emotional value simply happens via conversation. The Takeaways are doing anything that indicates romantic disinterest in the woman.

A Directive is anything that directs an individual towards a desired behavior. When someone complies with a Directive, value is returned to the person issuing the directive.

Takeaways and Directives are optional but you will find that you need them in many interactions to keep the value exchange going. Romance can’t happen without interactivity. Note the following excerpt from one of my own interactions when I was talking to a very pretty nurse in a club:

Nurse: “Thank you! I work in the ER, so I have no other I’m done with all of it, you know?” (she’s giving me value by telling me what she does)

Me: “That’s awesome! You are the crazy emergency nurse!” (I’m giving her value by teasing her a bit)

Nurse: “AHHH !!” (she gives me a little bit of value by appreciating the tease)

Me: “You would completely and totally save my life!” (I’m giving her value by telling her what she would do for me. Women like dominance.)

Nurse: “I would…” (she’s still appreciating)

Me: “If we were together, we would just get in all sorts of trouble all of the time—“ (I’m giving her value by creating some dramatic conflict between us)

Nurse: “I know!” (she gets very much into it at this point and is largely giving me value by showing her attention via body language)

Me: “But then I would rely on you to save us…” (more value to her via drama)

Nurse: “I think I can handle that.” (she gives me value by essentially saying she likes me)

Me: “You can handle that?” (I give value via challenging her)

Nurse: “Yea!” (she gives value by responding appropriately)

Me: “Good. So what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?” (this is a Directive – I’m asking her a question, note that I’m not giving much value here but I have built up so much from before that I can have her keep interacting with me just by giving further Directives)

Nurse: “Well, um, a year and a half ago my patient died and I did CPR on him…” (she gives value)

Me: “You did CPR? On who?” (another Directive on my part).

Nurse: “A patient! complaining because he couldn’t breathe…” (more her giving value)

Me: “Yea…” (I’m paying attention to her story so that’s me subtly giving her value)

Nurse: “Anyways, he had a fucking seizure! Then fucking died! I had to get his wife out of the room, We did CPR for thirty minutes; he never had a pulse, ever!” (more her giving value)

Me: “Then he came back?” (another Directive but I’m also giving value because I’m showing her I’m really into her story with my body language)

Nurse: “No! He died! He died at fifty one!” (she gives more value)

And then we made out a few minutes later.