The Irrefutable Secrets of Attraction

By Tyler Tray

Communicating with women effectively:

How does attraction work?

Attraction is simply a feeling that gets associated with something or someone, and that feeling gets linked with whomever and whatever is around when those intense, emotional feelings are experienced.

Basically, if a woman is feeling these powerful feelings in her mind and body and you are there with her when it’s happening, and she is looking at you (especially at your face), then she’ll associate those feelings to you. This is a major reason why we blame people for circumstances – if a certain person or people are around when an emotionally charged experience occurs, our minds naturally associate those feelings with the people involved in the experience. Women are perfectly fine with not being accountable, and will have sex with you as long as they can blame you for it happening. Women will always backwards rationalize their feelings, especially if they enjoyed feeling it. So why not be that person that a woman can associate these intense and powerful feelings to if that’s what drives her thoughts? Ultimately, attraction is nothing more than a consistent thought about something or someone. The more you think about something, the more you want it – whether or not it is good or bad for you.

How do you trigger attraction?

Women are excellent at triggering attraction with men. They have magazines showing them how to look amazingly hot and how to be great at sex. It’s an easy formula and it’s hard-wired in men to notice these things as indicators that a particular woman is ready to mate. I don’t want to go into the whole mating process, but basically men are attracted to physical traits and women are attracted to personality and communication traits.

If you trigger a woman’s attraction mechanisms, then you will notice how she’ll respond the same as men do when men feel attraction. The two forms of communication that you need to understand are nonverbal and verbal – both are equally important and have their place.

Nonverbal Communication

Some of my friends are strongly desired by women just because of the way they carry themselves (their nonverbal communication). Women instantly feel attracted to them and will treat them differently than everyone else just because of their nonverbal communication.

Have you ever noticed how hot women are always treated differently? The same is true with men, but it’s not your looks that will make you hot to a woman. It’s the way you communicate through your body language. It’s by carrying yourself confidently, with good posture, letting your eyes go wherever they want and not showing care if other people are thinking or talking about you. Having a lack of insecurity will draw women to you. Women can feel your presence and will be attracted to you without you even saying a word.

How do you communicate this presence?

Well, think if you were a super hot female. You would feel like you were important wherever you went, and most importantly you would treat people like you were valuable. Would you care about all the common guys that walk by that gave you attention? NO! In essence, you must carry yourself with that same attitude and mental state. Don’t get carried away with I’m too good for people – but rather, carry an attitude that says I’m hot and I know it.

Own your power. Don’t throw it away to other people by seeking approval and acting nervous. You need to show importance and carry yourself the same way the super hot female does. What this communicates to a woman is that you have high status. Women are programmed to mate with higher, alpha-type males. This doesn’t mean you need to be a dominant alpha male. You just need to own your situation and your experiences: you don’t care what other people think, you lead your own life, and you’re creating your own reality. If you convey these high status qualities with your personality and communication, women will feel attraction for you.

When you send a woman a text, send something like “you’re lucky to be with such a hot man.” This will communicate all the right things to her. You are building in her mind that you are an attractive man and that you have high standards. She will feel attracted because it will be a challenge. We have all heard the saying: you always want what you can’t have. Well women are the same way. You must always communicate to some degree that there is doubt that she can “have” you. This challenges a woman and it will make her feel passion and attraction for you.

Verbal Communication?

Simply stated: humor and confidence. Being arrogant with a funny overtone will definitely get any woman’s attention. It’s fun! If done correctly, you will start to become more valuable in her mind and she will become attracted to you – she will actually start pursuing you. You must never let her own you; always play hard to get. She wants something you have and you must present that in the way you communicate.

Always leave her wanting more. Stop in the middle of an experience when things are getting good, and then build it back up again. This will build tension and anticipation and communicates that you don’t need her. Give women just enough information to keep them intrigued – don’t tell them everything about you or what you’re thinking. Slowly, let them experience these things. She wants to get to know you by experiencing you and feeling you. Always maintain control of your emotional state so that you can communicate the way you really want.

Being a man is very important. You must get the boy out of you in order to be truly successful with women.

I would like to keep going, but I have learned that information is worthless without application. I have given you enough information to get you way beyond most men’s ability to successfully communicate with women. Take what I have said to heart and good luck with your dating success.