The Art of Letting Go

by johnlazy on November 6, 2009

It takes a lot of courage and a lot of guts to give up something or to give up someone, especially if your feelings attach undyingly. The feeling that you don’t want to move on because it hurts so much and you can’t deal with it thoroughly. You want to give up your ego and want another chance to work it out but that person whom you love doesn’t want to be part of you anymore.

You cried and cried and you can’t think of another reason to continue your life and you want to end your suffering right away. You are saying to yourself: What is good in living if that one person you love so much don’t want to continue the love you have both shared and promised to each other, that in those times it feels like an everlasting love.

But you have to realize something; sometimes you have to give up the one you love to be happy. I know it don’t make sense right now but in the long run you will understand what I’m saying. Why continue to punish yourself if you can go out and continue your life. Even though you always want to cry if you remember all the memories you’ve shared; be strong and understand that is for the betterment of the two of you.

Don’t make it hard on yourself because you know that all the crying and howling will do you no good, it will just bring you more heartaches and pain. Give yourself a chance to heal, a chance to recover and a chance to make it through despite all the negative feelings you had.

I will give you some advice and I hope you will follow it:

Be Thankful that once in your life you met such wonderful person as he/she is. Even though you had some nasty break up or don’t get along right now, you have to be grateful and appreciative because that individual helps you mold the person that you are now.

You have to say sorry even though it is not your fault. Swallow your pride. If you really think of it you have some fault also because you let it happen. If you reflect on it there is no one to blame but the priorities in life and the views each one of you possess. It doesn’t match anymore, so you have to move on.

Give yourself a chance to heal and continue life and hope that someday someone out there is willing to embrace you and love you the way you envision it to be. Don’t worry, Time will come and it surely brings you up again.

Don’t complain if there seems no positive result of what you are doing right now. Continue breathing and don’t mind distractions and negative vibes hit you.

Be real on your vision because you are living on the real world where haters and all kinds of detractors will drag you down. You have to be firm on your stand. Realize that love will come and go but you always stay.

Accept that there are people that are not destined to be with each other. You may be in some way connected in the past but that is the past and the future is still to come with full of promise and possibility.

Admit to yourself that it is time to say good bye and move to another chapter in your life. The chapters where you will be crying because of happiness you are enjoying.

Let it Go, Let it go, just let it go!