I’m just wondering how women perceive guys with bad guy image and a charming nice guy image. What attracted them the most? Is it the bad guy with strong appeal or a pleasant nice guy?
I often observe women are easily attracted to a guy with a bad guy image. Why is that? Is it their toughness or how they carry themselves or how the way they move? Maybe it is all of the above. Because I think they felt more secure in the hands of a man with a bad guy image because they thought they will be easily protected by that guy.
On the other hand, nice guy image is kind of boring for them because they see good deeds all the time. No intimidation factor and all they anticipate is a well mannered man. Is this really a disadvantage for them? I don’t think so, but it can affect the adventurous side of any instances.
Thrill seeking is one of the spice in a relationship, no one will want an uninteresting, dull, and unexciting moment with their special someone. This is where the bad guy effect most remarkable because they can expect some unexpected moments. Like not minding what people would think of them they will do whatever they want with conviction. They can be wild in some instance, really unpredictable; sometimes that’s what women want.
Nice guy can treat women in a nice way with full respect and will take care of them cautiously. They can almost give women anything they’ve wanted except for daring moves. I think the relationship will be worthwhile because women will never have any problems with good guys. But sometimes they are craving for something more stimulating that can gave them adrenaline rush.
Bad guy image have that mysterious effect on them and that makes them more exciting. They have this unexplained charisma that provide awakening to women. That’s why they have this noticeable advantage over nice guy.
But one interesting point I observed, nice guy will always win at the end. Because I think after all the thrill seeking girls have gone through, in the end they will always settle for the one that gives them peace of mind. Something they will not attained in a guy with a bad guy image.
All interesting carefree way of thinking they have in a bad guy will soon be gone because of some realization. That nice guy will be nice guy and bad guy will be bad guy and they will have to choose on what life they prefer of having. A life with a nice guy with full of love and care where they have a peace of mind and serenity or A life with a bad guy with interesting and always looking for risk taking but unstable.
The important thing is, that whoever you are don’t be afraid to show yourself because that is your true self. If women really love you they will accept you for who you are whether you’re a nice guy or a bad guy. Don’t ever conceal yourself just to please them. You’re true you will always be the best.
For women out there who do you prefer? And for the guys what image are you?
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Hmmm.. Nice guys wins in the end. So i’ll be a nice guy in the end.
I’m neither a nice guy nor a bad guy. I’m silent, stupid & something else. And I guess i’ll be like that forever.
Wow don’t be self pitying Dosox, we are all unique in our own way. Just let it flow sometimes we felt like that because of some hindrances and fear, step by step slowly learn to improve yourself. Thanks for droppin by.
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You have already a lot of blogroll spikiy. But I appreciate you for dropping by take care!
Take it from a gal with experience with both types. Bad boys can be fun and exciting, but it won’t last very long. A nice guy can be boring, but that’s the one that will stick around for the long-haul.
Wow what can i say you speak from your experience. You can’t beat experience. Thanks for droppin by MadMadMargo.
I do think that the bad boy image has its own raw sex-appeal. But I re-state again.. It never never lasts.
Good for flings….Not for keeps.
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@dosox: I agree to what John says…dun be hard on yourself..!
Women totally dig the shy silent types….
I Love’em!!!
take care Johnny Boy!!
Well bad guys have also good hearts but its all up to women on who they prefer the important thing is theyre happy. Take care Indrayani.
As they say, different strokes for different folks.That’s the beauty of life.Even friends have different taste and likes. I have a saleslady (long time ago) who broke up with my store supervisor because he is too nice of a guy.She wanted someone who is more adventurous.
I think it’s because most women have this “mothering instinct” to tame a guy and has the tendency to equate their attractiveness as somebody who can change a person. They think changing a bad guy to a nice guy is good for a woman’s ego. That’s only my opinion.
What sir mon she broke up with store supervisor? wow yap no wonder bad guys have this slick charisma.
Yap you have a point ma’am bingkee, that’s why they want almost always to change the bad guys attitude.
Bad guys are sleek and smoothe. They do have a great sex appeal, but on the other hand, so can a nice guy if you make him come out of his shell. I have had some terrific times with both no doubt, but to tell the truth the times with the “NICE” guy are more MEMORABLE. With the nice guys they seem to try to make every little detail and moment exciting. The bad guys don’t care if they do, but if so then that’s cool to them. They just want one thing when the night’s over.
By the way……It seems to be hard for guys to understand that “Shy” guys are very attractive to girls…..I want to agree with Indrayani. Lets see if anyone esle seems to think so……
John Crazy….j/k have a great day!
I laughed reading Dosox’s post because I did not take it literally. I thought he was being witty, sarcastic and funny. That’s the trouble with the written word…you must interpret what’s said without tone of voice and body language. johnlazy went negative and I went positive on that one.
That said, I’ve been with the same guy for going on 28 years, married 20 of those. I think he’s a combo guy. He is successful, attractive and reliable but with a bad boy undertone. I’m probably the same way. I’m still that girl who’s not impressed, still a “challenge” in his eyes. He does the good guy thing like being a great dad but he’s still a hot date- sexy & witty. Think “Mr. Big”. I think there is a LOT to be said for physical attraction. Keeping in shape is key. I’m a very visual girl. I’m not talking personal trainer shape but take care of yourself. I have also seen obese guys who are very attractive because it’s obvious they are well-groomed and confident. If you’re attractive to others, your spouse still sees you as attractive. I’ve been with him since he was 18 to 45 and he just keeps getting hotter. Physical attraction is what keeps us hooked on each other through the bad times. Yes, we have so much more to offer each other and we do but if we were not still hot on each other, we’d never have survived as a couple. Any long term relationship will have some difficult times…no matter how perfect you start out. There has to be that “spark” that keeps you into each other. I’ve seen that strong spark in elderly couples who’ve been together 50+ years. Once there, it rarely goes away.
@ Jessica- maybe it depends on the type of girl you are referring, but most of the time opposite attracts.
@Lady in Black- So, It’s all about grooming and fashion.