By: Wayne Elise
A hot woman is starved for genuine interest. She can make us act weird and distracted around her. But deep down she wants us to bring something real out of her.
To make matters worse she is rewarded for acting artificial. It is easy to overlook her behavior just because of her looks. We can feel lucky just to be around her. We may be tempted to buy her things, suck up and even give her cuts in line. But these are not what she really wants. They are shallow hand outs that are in the end unfulfilling. She wants to us to have the strength to bring out and reward her unique self.
Talking with a woman is not supposed to be work. The moment you think you need to be very interesting or better you have fallen into a trap. Hot women especially have a way of making you think that you must be very interesting or talk about fascinating things. That is a mistake caused by not confronting the issue and asking her to act like a real person. You should go the other way and talk about things that are DOWN TO EARTH. Trying to be an amazing guy is in itself an act of low self-confidence. She will interpret that as you trying to prove yourself to her.
A woman is not attracted to you for trying to win her approval. She is attracted to you for demonstrating high value by not trying too hard.
Instead of trying to be great, make her behave in a regular way. You can have a normal conversation and talk about normal things. All women are interested in things like family, travel and puppies.
You: “Hi, what’s your name?”
Her: “Does it matter?”
You: “I like you. You have a fun vibe. But you’re right. It doesn’t matter… if you’re going to act like a jerk.”
Surprisingly, a hot-women acting badly creates a golden opportunity to show some genuine interest. The secret to dealing with girls who are behaving badly is to act SWEET but also TOUGH at the same time. Show interest but in the next breath destroy her behavior. Mix in the sugar with the medicine. That is a great way to show her you are being a sincere man. She can’t possibly imagine you are sucking up if you are also acting tough.
Just because she is hot doesn’t mean she can act like a juvenile. Have higher expectations.
Her: “I’m sorry. I’m Cheryl.”
You: “Nice to meet you.”
Her: “Nice to meet you too.”
You: “I like your hands.”
Her: “Yeah, people say I should be a hand model.”
You: “That’s a coincidence. People say I should be an ear model.”
Don’t be above teasing women.
She is hot and cool as ice. You walk up to her.
You: “No one’s going to talk to you if you don’t smile.”
She smiles.
You: “There you go. You got a nice smile. I’m Richard. Richard Nixon.”
Her: “Betty.”
You: “No, I don’t do handshakes. Give me a hug.”
She hugs you.
You got to melt these girls with a little… DJ Tough Love.
You: “I feel sorry for you. You’re too good looking. The best thing that could happen to you is an industrial accident.”
Her: “What are you talking about?”
You: “Shut up. You know exactly what I’m talking about, love. Time for your noogie.”
This is something I learned from the Irish. You can get away with saying anything as long as you call women Love. All anyone wants to know is that you care for them.
She giggles and runs away as you chase her around the bar. You catch her on the stairs to the restroom, pin her against the wall and make out.
Her: “What do you do for a living?”
Here is where I used to recommend not giving a straight answer. I would have told you to say something such as, “I’m a trash collector.” But that is old school. It is still trying too hard. It is falling into the trap of believing you must be clever and need some sort of riddle game to keep her attention. Instead build a more authentic connection by being honest.
She has to really care. A woman should act genuinely interested in what she is asking or not ask. If you get the vibe she is faking it then call it out. Again, you do this by showing some love with your toughness.
You: “I would like to tell you. You are fun. But you are not really interested in what I do. You are just trying to make conversation.”
Her: “No I’m really interested. Please tell me.”
You: “I work with computers.”
Her: “That is really cool. I just bought a Mac.”
What does a woman find interesting? Anything she chooses to find interesting. She knows almost anything can be a starting point for fun and interesting conversation if she chooses to put in an effort. Expect her to meet you halfway and make that effort.
You: “Macs are good for graphics. You must be an artist.”
Her: “Yeah, I used to be a model but now I’m in fashion design school. I do swatches on my computer.”
Her: “I don’t know why you act that way.”
You: (shrugging) “Some things must remain a mystery.”
Her: “Arrgg.”
Sometimes a woman deliberately misunderstands as a way to manipulate you. This may be hard to implement if you are in love with your thoughts (as I tend to be sometimes) but you should become unattached to being understood. In fact acting a bit fuzzy and incomprehensible can be sexy.
Her: “I’m a Maxim model.”
You: (pointing your finger at her) “I hate that about you.”
You say this with love. This form of flirting is the opposite of sarcasm. Sarcasm is when you say something nice but mean something bad. (Avoid sarcasm.) But flirting is when you say something bad but mean “I love you.”
A few parting thoughts…
Always have fun. Don’t ever look as if you are upset.
Feel free to give mean looks, stick your tongue out, or laugh when she acts hurt. No one ever does this. A hot woman loves a man who takes those type of ‘dangerous’ chances.
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