By: Marius Panzarella
Love is based on feelings, not logic.
If she is attracted to you enough, she won’t give you any “excuses” or any arguments. She will try to please you like you’re trying to please her. Love is a two way street, get it? The moment you feel like you’re trying to please her to “win” her, you’re out of the game. Done. Game Over. Finished.
The number 1 mistake guys make in the dating game is trying to use logic to win women.
Be it approaching a girl for the first time, asking a girl out, dating a girl, or dealing with a straying girlfriend, men across the world try to use “logic” to “convince” a girl that they should be together. Here are some examples:
1) Telling a girl how much you love her and how good you would treat her if she would just be your girlfriend
2) Trying to impress women with gifts and flowers.
3) Using logic to convince a girl you’re better than the “other guy”.
4) Giving your ex-girlfriend “reasons” to stay with you.
But does she really care about these “logic”? Does she really care about how you feel?
Of course not.
She only cares about how she feels, not what you think.
Here’s the bottom line: Instead of using logical means to “get” girls, attract them instead.
So what does attraction consists of?
Two things: Desire/hope and doubt.
As human beings, we always want things that we hope we can get. The best way to create doubt is by being a challenge.
Have you noticed that the less available someone is, the more we want them? And the more needy someone is, the less we like them? That’s why it’s ALWAYS important to remain a challenge when it comes to the dating game. If we’re too easy, we’re going to die lonely.
Here’re six ways you can create challenge right now.
- Don’t Be Always Available: Be “busy” on weekends when you ask for dates. Ask the girl out on a weeknight instead. When she asks you what you’re doing on weekends, tell her “stuff.” If she asks you what kind of “stuff”, say, “Meeting friends”, etc.
- Don’t Tell Her You Like Her: Don’t tell women you like them. Remain a CHALLENGE. Once it’s out in the open you like her, half the game is over. You’re not interesting anymore, period. Girls love trying to figure out if a guy likes them or not. Don’t take this game away from them! Never, never tell her you like her. And never do anything stupid like “confessing” your love to her in a note or in an email.
- Don’t Let Her Walk All Over You: Never let a woman walk all over you. Have some backbone. Learn to say “no” to woman. Have some backbone.
- Don’t Buy Any Gifts: Don’t buy women any gifts in the first ten dates. Once again, you can’t buy love with money.
- Don’t Call Too Often: Don’t call a woman too often. Don’t call her to just “talk”. If you call her, it’s for asking her out. Call her, ask her out, and hang up.
- Be Prepared To Leave: Be prepared to walk away if you aren’t getting what you want from a relationship. Having this mindset will make you much more powerful.
So now that you know how to create doubt by being a challenge, how do you ignore desire in a woman?
By flirting with her and building up the sexual chemistry.
The only difference between a friendship and a relationship is the sexual chemistry. Without sexual chemistry, you will never be anything more than a girl’s “best friend”.
A three-step approach to creating chemistry (Emotions – Desire – Action.)
Flirting Technique #1: Make Eye Contact:
Most of flirting is done with your eyes. Keep good eye contact on a woman when you talk to her. Just keep your eyes focused on her bit “too long.”
Flirting Technique #2: Say “Hello” With Energy
When you approach a woman, say “Hello” in a flirty way. It will make her think you’re sexier than the average geek who walks up to her and gives her a shy “Hi”.
Flirting Technique #3: Shake Her Hand A Bit Too Long
When you shake her hand, let your hand stay on hers for a bit too long and then brush against her hand as you pull back. Do this while smiling and looking into her eyes sincerely. You don’t want to come off as a pervert.
Flirting Technique #4: Repeat The Woman’s Name
As you talk to her, repeat her name as much as you can. Say her name slow, softly and sensually each time you say it.
Example: “Hello, De-bbie, I am very glad you came here…”
Flirting Technique #5: Stir Your Drink
Stir your drink with a rhythm as you talk to her.
The effect can be “hypnotizing” under the right atmosphere.
Flirting Technique #6: Lower Your Volume
Lower and lower your volume so she has to lean towards you to listen.
Flirting Technique #7: Whisper
When she gets close enough, whisper to her. This works well in a bar, when the music is so loud you have to talk in each other ears.
Flirting Technique #8: Be Playful
Ask yourself the following questions:
1) How much fun can I have tonight?
2) What sorts of interesting things can I find out about this girl?
Flirting Technique #9: Use Nicknames
When you get closer to a woman, make up a cute nickname for her.
Flirting Technique #10: Touch Her Back
If she starts touching you, then touch her on the shoulder or arm when you laugh. Increase the frequency of touching as the night goes on.
Flirting Technique #11: Wink and Wave
Next you meet a woman, wink at her, smile and wave.
Flirting Technique #12: Exaggerate Her Movements
When a woman does something, do the same thing but exaggerate it. For example, if she raises one eyebrow, do the same thing but exaggerate it.
Flirting Technique #13: Leave Her Wanting More
Do what strippers do the guys. Get a girl all hot and then leave her wanting more!
Flirting Technique #14: Laugh At Her Jokes
Laugh at her jokes whenever she makes one. Touch her on the arm lightly when you laugh if she is already touching you.
Flirting Technique #15: Listen To Her Stories
Pay attention to what she says. Be focused on her, not on the hot waitress.
Flirting Technique #16: Drop A Compliment
Drop her a compliment every once in awhile. Not too often though!
Flirting Technique #17: Tease Her
Incorporate teasing into your flirting. Tease her till she’s wet!
Flirting Technique #18: Get More Personal
Ask her more and more personal questions as the evening progresses. Things about her childhood, etc!
Make it a rule to flirt with every woman you see. You should be playful and fun when you flirt, without expecting any results. Flirt because you enjoy bringing pleasure to women, not because you’re trying to “pick them up”. There is a huge difference between flirting playfully and trying to get into somebody’s pants. If you’re just being playful, most women will sense it and play along. But if you’re too serious and try to “seduce” a woman by flirting, most women will be able to see through your bullshit and reject you.
Flirting is also a good way to test the waters with a woman. Always flirt with a woman before you ask for her phone number or for a date. If she ignores your flirting, you can take it as a sign that she does not have any romantic interests in you.
But if she flirts back, then there is a slight possibility that she likes you. It doesn’t mean that she likes you for certain – some girls are just big flirts – but it means that she doesn’t hate you. In that case, tune up the flirting to build up the sexual chemistry.
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