Do you consider cheating in a relationship at some point normal? Or do you consider this as an unprincipled way of treating your partner?
Cheating happens because your partner in the relationship is not satisfied on where the relationship is going. Or we can say the other one is just looking for a thrill because sometimes he/she felt bored in the connection of the two of you. Is this justified?
I remember one time when my friend talks to me about her boyfriend. When they are still new all I can hear is praise about her boyfriend. She always said that her boyfriend is nice, sweet, caring, thoughtful and a lot of positive values. She don’t forget to mention all the time that she loves her boyfriend and their relationship keeps getting stronger and stronger as the time progress. But all of a sudden she calls me at night and crying, and I said what happen why are you crying? She said; she cheats on me, I trusted him so much and he did this to me! Oh girl! I said to her, are you still surprised about that? I think that’s kind of normal in a guy. Well that’s my point of view about that because I did it also before. And she cried and cried.
At some point in the relationship there will come a point in you that you have this urge that you want to meet new man/woman in your life but it doesn’t mean that you don’t love your partner anymore it just that you want a new perspective of passion. This is especially true for the guys, because guys are more on physical look. If they meet new woman and the attraction shows right away. Well, that would be the starting point of dishonesty. But this is not only for men, women also do that and they are much better at it.
Why is this happen in a relationship? Is the reason of new perspective in life enough to cheat to your partner? Or so that it gives you more excitement? Is this the result of the feeling of being left out by your other half?
Is it nicer if you can tell to your lover face to face that you don’t like him/her anymore? In that moment you want to break up with the relationship. Why result in that kind of mess. One reason would be it’s hard to break someone’s heart, that’s why you’re cheating so that it’s easier for the other one to break up with you. Is that fair enough basis? By doing such kind of act you’re not only hurting your partner’s heart but the trust he/she gave you wholeheartedly.
I don’t really in the position to judge or give a truthful advice because I’ve done that also. Or can I say we’ve all done that at some point in our life. Cheat or be cheated is the worst thing can happen to a relationship because it felt like you’ve just been traitor by someone who dear to you. And you can’t really accept the feeling. It just like you had been back stab and you don’t know about it and when the time you know it, it’s already late you’ve given him/her everything you can offer.
But things happen; such kind of circumstances can make you more aware about love, about relationship, about people. I know cheating happens all the time it can be as simple as text mate or call mate. That’s the nature of reality. I will never be surprised if that happens in a relationship, that’s part of it. But you can make it straightforward if you really respect the time you two spent together and the relationship you’ve shared together.
The important thing is, whatever you have done you’re willing to admit it. Don’t deny, it will just add up the hurt to your partners feeling. Accept your fault and willing to embrace the consequences of your action. Give your partner time to ease the pain.
If you can prevent yourself from cheating much better, it will really add up to your character.
So, is cheating in a relationship at some point normal? What you think? I want to know your point of view.
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great post…It’s about self discipline and self control…Mind over matter and temptations….If more people do great then a high possibility of great people living…ty
Thanks for droppin by ronald well your right you have to control yourself and all the temptation, how to do it is in the way you handle yourself
Some time can’t control myself.
Well sayan, You have to learn to control yourself. I know its hard but if theres a will theres a way
hehe..=)
nice post..
weLL..cheating is really normal kuya..i’ve witnessed cheating in some cases..and in some point, i tolerated one of those people who’s close to me to cheat to someone that loves her so much..but..as what you’ve said, it’s normaL..
there you wiLL know how much a person loves you..once he/she cheated, it’s normal..but let him/her admit that he/she was wrong and let him/her apologize..=) and acceptance and forgiveness wiLL appear..if there is really love..
but a person who cheated, and didn’t admit to her partner what’s going on..eventhough it’s really obvious..then definitely…that’s not right..that’s being unfair..=( hmmp’
cheating may be prevented as weLL..
people who can’t avoid themselves from cheating aren’t really serious with their partners at some point..in my own point of view..=) weLL, we know that cheating is really one of the most hurtful thing that a person may do to his/her partner..so why cheat???
just try to do everything that could nurture your relationship with your partner and not try to do things than can destroy your relationship..weLL..
if there’s a wiLL..there’s a way..you wilL always have a choice..
and that choice must be.. to not let yourself cheat and just be a good partner to your partner right?
whatever happens,whoever we are, things like that wiLL really come into our mind and it depends upon us whether we are going to do that or not..but i hope..people wiLL think first of the consequences before they wiLL do such things if ever..
that’s it..let’s just love one another and be contented..^_^
wow neng its nice to know your growing ,what a love really can do in a person hehehehehhe
haha..kuya tlga..hmmp’
i’m always growing..hehe ^_^
nah’ l0ve?weLL, one of the reason..and the other??hmm life experiences..it’s better to be growing and matured nowadays than to be innocent..hehe
i d0n’t want to be cheated kya..hmmp’ that’s why i c0mment..haha ^_^
i mean..better to be growing and be matured nowadays..hehe ^_^
but, kuya…i still have that “being innocent”..haha
but i don’t wanna be innocent when someome is cheating..=)
hahahahahaha that’s good for you keep the innocence in you heheheh but don’t be ignorant
yahyah..=)
hehe..
Thanks for droppin by neng take care!
u’re alwayz welcome kuya..
teecee din..hehe’ =)