10 Things to Know to Manage Your Anger with Others

Have you been in rage a lot of times and you can’t control yourself? Are you trying your best to keep away from confrontation but you can’t do it because confrontation is always asking on you?

Trying your best not to retaliate to such situation is hampering your breath and the burst of your emotional disturbance is taking you in, that is why you felt the need to do something to ease the discomfort your feeling.

And you’ve done something, and it feels good, but it leaves you with regrets for the rest of your life. You’ve done the stupidest thing in your life, the consequence of not having to control your emotion. You’ve just punch the cause of your anger, he/she bleeds, and it’s too late to realize the mistake you have just made. Busted! Now You’re facing trial in court, but if the one you’ve punch in the face is a good person and luckily he/she forgives you well that’s good news for you, but if not, you have to count your days behind bars.

But if you can prevent something before it happens that would be a great trait you can have. Learn to manage your anger so that you will not deal that kind of situation in your life. So how can you do it?

Here it is; I list 10 things to know to manage your anger with others:

1.) DON’T REACT RIGHT AWAY

If someone is angry at you, don’t react right away, don’t give him/her the reason to be angrier. In situation like this, a simple retaliation by you could lead to complicated condition, so it is much better to check your reaction.

2.) LISTEN TO YOUR MIND

Think and listen to what your mind is saying. Your mind can speak in a bunch of ways and it will give you some suggestion on what action you will take in those kind of circumstances. Your mind can direct you to chaos or can guide you to tranquility. So you have two choices; the positive one or the negative one. Take the positive outcome, it will make you peaceful.

3.) BE REALISTIC

Be realistic on the possible outcome of any decisions you make. It could turn nasty if not inspect right away. Be rational, if you fight words or fist with someone make sure you can take it and be sure you will win the fight. If not it’s better to shut up!

4.) STAY CALM

This trait is hard to keep up most especially if you’re under attack, the human nature would suggest that you will have to fight back. But coolness can get you to a better deal. If you stay put and remain calm and don’t utter a single word, The aggressor would have a second thought, if he/she will continue to bombard you with malicious intent that’s his/her problem not yours. So, stay calm.

5.) SYMPATHIZE WITH THEM

Sympathize with him/her or with them if they are many. People sometimes had bad day, everybody does, and it is not an excuse for them to justify it. But you have to understand people; they are only human like yours and born to make mistakes. Be aware of their flaws.

6.) HAVE A METHODOLOGICAL APPROACH

Meaning if the above mention don’t work for you just try it again, until you succeed.  Everything has a procedure so learn to live by it.

7.) FEEL WHAT THEY’RE FEELING

Imagine! What if you’re on his/her shoe? What would you feel? Will you react the same way he/she is reacting? Feel the hurt of what they are experiencing, and then decide for you if it is worth striking back to the person.

8.) KNOW YOURSELF

If you know yourself really, you will have some idea to what extent your anger will damage the other person. So be careful on what steps to take because if you thought you know yourself truly, you will be surprise, you didn’t know yourself that well. Take time to ponder for awhile your true systematic values before hitting on something.

9.) DON’T TAKE NEGATIVE

Don’t let the anger swallow you. Negative thoughts are always there to haunt you, so learn to negate disapproving thoughts. Cast out undesirable idea running through your mind, and you will be fine.

10.) ABSORB IT AND WALK AWAY

After listening, not reacting, being realistic, calming, sympathizing, approaching, feeling, knowing and negating, you have to absorb it all and walk away. Because it’s not worth your time if you still react to that kind of situation. There are more to do than giving him/her the reason to be happy because you lost your temper.

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